Sharing Life Recipes http://sharingliferecipes.com Living Life to the Fullest Sat, 18 Mar 2017 02:49:17 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5 Resilience Leads to Success http://sharingliferecipes.com/resilience-leads-success/ Thu, 04 Aug 2016 06:12:49 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1343 Resilience : we can change the misery of failure to the excitement of trying again when we change the way we think - think 'not yet' instead of 'fail'.

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Can you speak Mandarin? Can you sky dive? Have you written your book?

resilience leads to success

Instead of answering “no” try “not yet”. Feel the difference. “Not yet” is full of future possibility.

A school in Chicago graded exam papers either ‘pass’ or ‘not yet’. Leading motivation researcher Carol S. Dweck applauded them. Her research over many years shows how empowering ‘not yet’ can be. It leaves the door open – and helps develop a ‘growth’ mindset.

Resilience leads to success

When the brain searches for alternatives, as it will when faced with a ‘not yet’, it grows new neural pathways. Challenge is a source of inspiration.
When we call ourselves a failure it can be like shutting the door. Our inner voice is always happy to stop us from doing something in case we fail.
Dr. Dweck describes the outstanding results of praising students for their resilience and strategy – not praising them for their cleverness or intelligence.

Children praised for intelligence were often afraid to try out more difficult assignments because they didn’t want to risk falling from the pedestal.The ones who were instead praised for their determination and resilience would try again and try harder.

We know that in business that the difference between success and failure is resilience. Resilience is the grit to keep going, to keep looking for answers, to stay grounded when the banks refuse your application, when a supplier goes broke or when the clients are complaining. There’s something of this in the attitude of Sarah Blakeley who grew up knowing resilience leads to success.

The power of ‘not yet’ is that it develops a ‘growth’ mindset.

Watch Carol Dweck explain in more detail:

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Happiness Leads to Success http://sharingliferecipes.com/happiness-increases-your-success/ Mon, 01 Aug 2016 14:03:45 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=284 So you thought that if you become more successful you’ll be happier? Wrong. It’s scientifically proven to be the other way around. Happiness increases your success outcomes. If you’d like your brain to be sharper, clearer and better at problem-solving, then think about this: your brain is more productive at positive than at negative. That includes exams, job interviews, […]

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So you thought that if you become more successful you’ll be happier? Wrong. It’s scientifically proven to be the other way around. Happiness increases your success outcomes.

If you’d like your brain to be sharper, clearer and better at problem-solving, then think about this: your brain is more productive at positive than at negative. That includes exams, job interviews, problem solving and creating business plans.

By raising your level of positivity right now, your brain will experience ‘the happiness advantage’.

Want to know more?  Shawn Anchor is one of the most popular speakers at Harvard University. He’s a specialise on positive psychology.  Here is his TED talk. One of my favourites.

 Use the Happiness Advantage: The Happy Secret to Better Work

It’s not what happens to you, it’s the way you look at what happens to you. Check which filter you’re wearing today.

Laszlo Bock SVP Google People Operations wrote about Shawn’s presentation at Google’s Work Conference last month.  Shawn explained explained to the Google staff that “you are not just your genes and your environment….happiness can be a choice. But it’s a choice that we can influence through our organizations. And when we do so, it becomes the greatest competitive advantage in the modern economy.”

Have you heard the expression ‘Hedonic Treadmill‘? The Hedonic Treadmill is the term given to explain  our  inability to sustain happiness for extended periods. It seems  that even after something wonderful happens which increases our happiness, over time we usually return to our happiness baseline. It takes more and more to elevate us.

Shawn suggests that for a 21 day period we write down three new things each day we are grateful for and take two minutes a day praising a person we know.

After 21 days the brain will unconsciously seek out  and present to us the more positive aspects of life.

 

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Willing to Fail http://sharingliferecipes.com/willing-to-fail/ Fri, 22 Jul 2016 04:34:49 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1211 Sara Blakely – the founder of Spanx and youngest self-made billionaire. Sara’s father taught his children how important it was to be willing to fail. Be Willing to Fail If your parents had asked you at the end of every day ‘What did you fail at today?”  do you think your attitude to failure would be different or […]

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Sara Blakely

Sara Blakely – the founder of Spanx and youngest self-made billionaire.

Sara’s father taught his children how important it was to be willing to fail.

Be Willing to Fail

If your parents had asked you at the end of every day ‘What did you fail at today?”  do you think your attitude to failure would be different or less critical?  I think so. Usually when we are not willing to fail, we criticise ourselves, we worry if others will think less of us and we don’t want to look stupid to the outside world. This self criticism often stops us from trying something new next time.

When I started the business centre. It had large glass windows – everyone could see it wasn’t full of tenants when we started. During the early days while we were building reputation, the yawning empty office spaces spelled failure to me. That lasted until, with time and recommendations, the business centre offices filled up. Eventually, clients needed to reserve spaces in advance. So all that worrying was a waste of energy. I had not been willing to fail. It was my mindset.

Instead I could have seen things differently – I could have been grateful that I’d had the courage to start something new. I wish I’d read Sara’s story back then.

Get Started

In the article attached below, she gives 10 recommendations to people inspired to start a new business:

  • Fail Big – stretch yourself out of your comfort zone.
  • Visualise your goal (in N.L.P. consultations we would encourage your to use sound, colour, movement and personal involvement to really get into the visualising process and make it REAL).
  • Keep your ideas to yourself. This is something I strongly agree with. If I’d listened to friends and advisers, having no experience or capital, I would never have started my Hong Kong business. Friends are well-meaning, but they shoot down your ideas in the process of helping you not take risks.
  • Don’t take “no” for an answer. Banks and investors like to back people who are already successful. As every salesperson knows, you have to go through a number of refusals before you get the answer  you want.
  • Hire people you like and trust. Enthusiasm and belief in the product or service creates a good working environment.
  • You don’t have to follow any specific order of doing things. Even in the world of websites, experts advise to put the website up now, before you are ready. Let the process be refined from there.
  • Don’t stop yourself from pursuing an idea because you think you don’t have the ability – you can hire people with ability.
  • You CAN start with a small budget – don’t believe you need to float a company just to get started.
  • Control your setting up costs. Do what’s needed only when it’s needed. Concentrate on what’s top priority to move forward.
  • Break the mould. You can always do things differently to the way everyone has done them before.
Sara Blakely – Lessons you won’t learn in business school Video

Photo credit: Spanx.com

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Taking Risks and Living Large http://sharingliferecipes.com/taking-risks-for-worlds-best-photograph/ Thu, 21 Jul 2016 07:47:03 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1303 Worlds best nature photos are often just accidents with perfect timing. When he left for the Himalayas concerned friends advised him to slow down, not travel so much, be careful of thieves, terrorists and germs.

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Nick Melidonis Nubra Valley

A Moment’s Opportunity

How many opportunities would a photographer have to get a photo like this? How many treks, cold dawns and sore backs are involved?  This is an example of how we just don’t know what’s around the corner. The photographer sets up his tripod, adjusts his lenses and hopes for a ray of sunshine.

World’s Best Nature Photo Award

My friend, Master Photographer Nick Melidonis, whose photographs you see on our home page sliders, recently captured this image of a camel train in the Nubra Valley, in the high Himalayas. This image will now be presented on behalf of Australia for final judging of the world’s ten best nature photographs in the World Photographic Cup.

Well Meaning Friends Can Stop you Achieving

When he left for the Himalayas concerned friends advised him to slow down, not travel so much, be careful of thieves, terrorists and germs. He ignored them all and look what he has achieved. One of the world’s best photographs. Sometimes, when you know what you want, you just have to take risks and get out there. This is a lesson for those of us who live too cautiously. Life is there for the taking and NOT doing something often leads to regret.

Nick Melidonis Travel Photography Tours 2016

If you’re looking for adventure, with a planned itinerary,  I highly recommend taking one of Nicks’ small group photographic tours of Greece, Cambodia and Borneo. Check his website:  Nick Melidonis Photographic Tours

 

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Chronic Pain – How to Rewire http://sharingliferecipes.com/chronic-pain-how-to-rewire/ Fri, 10 Jun 2016 03:40:06 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1187 Reduce chronic pain and establish a personal feedback system for monitoring your progress. This new book, by Australian pain specialists, is due for launch October 2015. Evidence Based The message is ‘Do this because it WORKS’.  Don’t waste time arguing the point, the science behind the simple statement is extensive and well documented. Managing Your Chronic Pain Thanks […]

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Rewire Your PainReduce chronic pain and establish a personal feedback system for monitoring your progress. This new book, by Australian pain specialists, is due for launch October 2015.

Evidence Based

The message is ‘Do this because it WORKS’.  Don’t waste time arguing the point, the science behind the simple statement is extensive and well documented.

Managing Your Chronic Pain

Thanks to ‘Rewire Your Pain’ you will understand the distinct separation between the initial cause of chronic pain, and the ongoing activity of the nervous system. In chronic pain, the nervous system continues mis-firing to cause the pain experience, long after the physical damage is repaired.

Watch the TED talk video ‘Why Pain Hurts‘ by the very creative Prof. Lorimer Moseley, who manages to make pain amusing.

The idea of moving from being a victim of chronic pain to being the architect of your own recovery in very simple, practical steps, is very empowering.

I recommend it for anyone wanting to take control of their pain management. The book is available as a FREE pre-launch e-book on the website : REWIREYOURPAIN

Authors Dr. Stephanie Davies, Pain Specialist |  Dr. Nicholas Cooke | Ms Julia Sutton

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Why Positive Thinking Alone Can’t Work http://sharingliferecipes.com/why-positive-thinking-alone-cant-work/ Sat, 02 Apr 2016 08:14:40 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=807 In the video below Bruce Lipton clearly explains how the unconscious and conscious minds have different jobs to do. How to bring about change is not just a matter of the conscious mind adopting ‘Positive Thinking’ Here Bruce is interviewed by The Tapping Solution people. It’s the best interview of him I have listened to. […]

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In the video below Bruce Lipton clearly explains how the unconscious and conscious minds have different jobs to do. How to bring about change is not just a matter of the conscious mind adopting ‘Positive Thinking’

Here Bruce is interviewed by The Tapping Solution people. It’s the best interview of him I have listened to.

Once you listen, you understand.

THEN you can make changes that are effective.

Bruce Lipton on Tapping for Change

Click here to watch the interview “Positive Thinking and the Unconscious Mind. How to re-record the tape”.

 

 

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Why is Small Print Written Small? http://sharingliferecipes.com/why-is-small-print-written-small/ Mon, 30 Nov 2015 09:48:40 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1198 Warnings and cautions are written in small print because we are influenced by large print.

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currencies

If you’re a rational decision maker, then you are not exactly normal. According to Grattan Institute executive John Daley, most consumers are not rational decision makers. We respond to various stimuli and often buy products which are inappropriate to our life circumstances.

We Ignore Small Print

Apparently when it comes to deciding on investments we usually ignore information that is too long or complicated but we are influenced by short, simple messages in large type. Is this why warnings to ‘seek independent legal advice’ are written in small letters at the end of a very long and detailed document?

Investor Bias is Not Rational

Most financial products, whether share offers, mortgages, managed funds, insurance products or guarantees I’ve come across are served up with thick documents written in legal-speak and printed in small type.

Having a clear summary of the risks or negative factors at the beginning of the offer document would make decision making so much easier and faster.

Daley argues that Government could protect investors by recognising that most of us  have a bias towards :

  • short-term gains,
  • aversion to loss
  • resistance to change
  • copying what others are doing

Three Main Risks Written in Large Print

In recognizing these biases Daley suggests that government could legislate for disclosure statements to advertise the three main risks associated with the product offered These risks need be written in the largest typeface in the document.

This is a very sound idea. If the three most serious risks were written in the largest font in the front of the document we investors could hardly ignore them. There would be a better chance for us to take the warnings to heart.

What is the True Cost ?

Going even further, why not demand that providers advertise the true cost of a product – including all fees – in a prominent manner? Imagine being able to easily compare the true costs of mortgages, managed funds, loans and life insurance funds.

Read The Small Print

Read The Small PrintSince manufacturers were forced to put fat and sugar content on food labels we’ve been able to make better choices through comparisons. However I need the iPhone torch to read the small print.

It will be interesting to see what comes from John Daley’s address to The Governance Institute of Australia’s national conference.

We are influenced by messages that are short, simple and in big type.Watch for your bias next time you’re reading a financial offer document. Once you’re aware, you can sense if  you are being manipulated.

 

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Mind Coach and Metacognition http://sharingliferecipes.com/mind-coach-metacognition/ Thu, 20 Aug 2015 09:24:23 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1165 Who Needs a Mind Coach? Even high performance athletes need a mind coach in their corner. We know there’s more to winning than physical training. The mind also needs to be trained. MetaCognition A new book, by a performance psychologist Gayelene Clews, is valuable for anyone who wants to keep mental distress under control. And it […]

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Mind Coach

Choose Your Thoughts


Who Needs a Mind Coach?

Even high performance athletes need a mind coach in their corner.

We know there’s more to winning than physical training. The mind also needs to be trained.

MetaCognition

A new book, by a performance psychologist Gayelene Clews, is valuable for anyone who wants to keep mental distress under control. And it applies to everyone, not just athletes.

Stopping self-defeating, negative thoughts requires training. Negative thoughts are waiting to jump into our minds at any unguarded moment.

Gayelene, previously a world-class athlete and now a mind coach, knows how important it is to quickly recognize our negative patterns of thinking.

The new term ‘metacognition’ is about recognizing patterns of thinking and taking action to gain control on how we use our minds. Building up our own personal library of creative and resourceful ways to deal with anxiety and self doubt is what she calls building ‘mind wealth’.

This teaching is not new. I read ‘The Inner Game of Tennis’ a few years ago. When published in 1974, it was a phenomenon. It is still relevant today.

The author Timothy Gallwey demonstrates how to overcome the self-doubt, nervousness, and lapses of concentration that can keep a player from winning.

How to do it?

Gaylene also shows how we can learn to do this.

I found it interesting that she discusses the additional problems faced by athletes as retirement approaches. It must be a serious challenge to anyone when they step down from the limelight, whether they be successful business people, entertainers or even heads of government.

Stepping off the Ladder

Once you have become accustomed to star-class service, paparazzi, free tickets and airline upgrades, how do you become an ordinary person again?

How to Re-Define Yourself

Having many different ways to define yourself will help you move from the top rung of your field to a lower level, without losing self esteem. Not defining yourself solely by way of your business success or your star performer status, will keep you grounded when your external status changes.

Challenging Negative Thoughts

Being aware of your thoughts and challenge the negative thoughts immediately they crop up instead of dwelling on failures. Remind yourself of your many successes in the past.

Run that successful memory in detail. This is how a mind coach helps athletes to stay focused and positive.

By re-running successful shots and maneuvers they set the brain to focus and remember the process of a successful move in stead of the error.

Read:

Wired to Play’ – Gayelene Clews, performance psychologist

‘The Inner Game of Tennis’  The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance. Timothy Gallwey

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Holding Foreign Currencies http://sharingliferecipes.com/holding-foreign-currencies/ Tue, 28 Jul 2015 08:18:01 +0000 http://sharingliferecipes.com/?p=1135 Exchange Rates Often it’s not until we’re planning an overseas trip that we realise how much exchange rates have moved since our last holiday. Maybe last time we Australians went to the USA, we could get US$1 for each Australian dollar. Not lately. Not for quite some time in fact. We’ve see our Australian dollar moving downwards this […]

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MoneyExchange Rates

Often it’s not until we’re planning an overseas trip that we realise how much exchange rates have moved since our last holiday. Maybe last time we Australians went to the USA, we could get US$1 for each Australian dollar. Not lately. Not for quite some time in fact.

We’ve see our Australian dollar moving downwards this year by 18%. That really affects our buying power. And that has a knock-on effect if we are travelling through Asian countries which base their currencies on the US$.

Losing Purchasing Power

When banks are paying interest rates of 2.5% per year, an you’re losing purchasing power by 18% a year, you can see how your savings are being affected. And its not just when we travel, it applies whenever we buy imports. See what has happened to the Australian dollar since August 2014:

Graph US$ v A$

(c) Yahoo7

Holding foreign currencies might sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. If we want to put some of our assets into foreign currencies and we are willing to take the risk of the exchange rate going against us (an it certainly can) then we could think of holding limited amounts for the sake of diversification.

Warning NoteThis is not financial advice.

It is not investment advice.

You must seek that from a licensed financial advisor, which I’m not.

But I just want to tell you that if you would like to hold some of your savings in foreign  currencies, just ask your bank if they can help you. The front desk teller might give you a blank stare, but if you ask to speak to a manager you might find that your bank offers accounts in different currencies. They might not advertise these services strongly because it’s not what their mainstream client wants.

It depends how internationally focussed the bank is. I found that the HongKong Shanghai Bank in Australia (HSBC) allows holdings in several other currencies. HSBC clients can hold US$, Australian$ and Euro savings accounts, without leaving Australia. To withdraw money from these accounts, the countervalue in Australian dollars will be paid.

Foreign Stock Markets

Another way to diversify into foreign currencies is to invest in another country’s stock market. If stocks are priced in that country’s currency you are in effect holding that foreign currency. However, you must check the regulations  – there may be higher brokerage charges and perhaps there will be withholding taxes levied on dividends. In Australia I use NABtrade, but any international stockbroker should be able to explain charges and regulations to you. I know in the case of US securities you have all the above, plus you may need to complete declarations of ownership in relation to money laundering regulations.

Foreign Stock Market Index Funds

How to choose which foreign stocks to buy? If you don’t know one foreign company from another, think about buying a security that represents the whole index of that particular stock market. These are called ‘Index Funds’. The underlying ratio of stocks in the index fund represent the stocks that make up that particular stock index. It might be less exciting, but at least you can hold a number of industry categories across the board.

Checking Exchange Rates

I downloaded an App called ‘Forex Money Transfer’ which will instantly indicate the value of my favourite foreign currencies against the Australian dollar and gives graphs for 1 day – 3 year time frames.

Checking Foreign Stock Markets

There are Apps for this too. Once you know the stock market you want to follow you search the App store for an App to cover that market.

Need more information? Send an email through the contact page.

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Cooking With Love Mindfully http://sharingliferecipes.com/cooking-with-love-mindfully/ Sun, 19 Jul 2015 07:21:25 +0000 http://sharingthejourneys.com/?p=1 These cakes look so good you can almost take one off the table. They were made by a friend. She doesn’t seem to have any trouble getting cakes to rise, or icing to set. But then she pays attention to what she’s doing. ‘Cooking Mindfully’ doesn’t sound much like MasterChef does it? Preparing food slowly with […]

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Cooking with love

These cakes look so good you can almost take one off the table.

They were made by a friend. She doesn’t seem to have any trouble getting cakes to rise, or icing to set. But then she pays attention to what she’s doing.

‘Cooking Mindfully’ doesn’t sound much like MasterChef does it? Preparing food slowly with love is a far cry from the the swearing, sweating and crying we see on  reality t.v.

But we don’t have to rush cooking to get food on the table in ten minutes. Even less so if, once it’s been served, instead of actually tasting the food, everyone’s reading, checking messages or making phone calls while they eat.

How can the simple task of cutting an onion lead you into a calmer way to prepare food?

I watched this TED talk and realised THIS is how we can slow down while we’re cooking and actually take the time for US.  [You know, that time we’re always saying we don’t have].

We think of cooking as a one-way trip. Imagine, if the soup actually notices that you are stirring it. Imagine if the food becomes more nourishing because of the way you think while you’re making it.

Worth thinking about? By adopting a slow and mindful attitude I’ve even enjoyed making an omelette. And I think the eggs had fun mixing with the tomatoes and herbs.

Putting Love Into Cooking

Author and teacher, Cynthia Lair shows us how to do it. She says:

“Your thoughts and emotions go into your food as you prepare it. Cooking with love is putting love and concentration into cooking which can improve your nourishment.

The food is begging you to “be.here.now”. By being in the present moment with the food, you are meditating – effortlessly.

When you sip from the spoon to taste the soup and stop a moment to reflect on the flavour – the soup notices!

The good attention and intention you put into your food while you’re cooking it, comes back to you when you sit at your table to eat.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPpe

 

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