What Are Difficult Choices ?

Query-cropped

Should you move in with him or stay independent? At this age you have probably achieved a state of independence you didn’t have in your twenties. There may not be the same allure to being part of a two-some, but you still can see how good it can be to share your life.

Should you have your ailing parents come to live with you? You feel guilty if you don’t but you are worried your life will change for the worse if you do.

Should you accept chemo or go the alternative way? Everyone has their advice and opinions. How to decide what’s best for you.

These choices are hard choices, because you can see benefits and drawbacks in each and it’s hard to decide which way to go.

How to Make Difficult Choices

Ruth Chang in this TED talk gives a philosopher’s view of how we can handle hard choices and comes up with a really wonderful solution.  She says you can’t measure ”values” in a scientific manner and  you can’t give a number to a choice that involves values.

”Hard choices are hard because they are not equally good or equally bad.”

She tells us that taking the safest option stems from fear of the unknown. We might choose a job that doesn’t thrill us because it looks more secure than another more appealing opportunity.

She gives us the answer and I’ve already tried it out a few times – it works. It gets all the confusion out of your head. You make a decision. You find all the reasons to support it. And you Step Into It Boldly.

So of you don’t want to allow others to write the story of YOUR life, make your hard choices decisively, then find reasons to support the choices, and step into them boldly.

 

She tells us that taking the safest option stems from fear of the unknown. We might choose a job that doesn’t thrill us because it looks more secure than another more appealing opportunity.

If we don’t want to allow others to write the story of our lives, let’s make our hard choices decisively, then find reasons to support the choices, and step into them boldly.

 

Share This